Understanding an Introvert [VIDEO’s + article]
I am an introvert with some extroverted tendencies. I did not fully understand that I was or what this meant until I married my wife Natasha, since she is introverted as well. Living with her has helped me understand what it means to be introverted and what my limitations are of what I can and cannot handle.
Since most people on the planet are extroverted they cannot really understand why an introverted person behaves/responds they way they do. It would take a lot of empathy (putting oneself in another’s place) to grasp what it’s like being introverted.
The dictionary definitions offer a somewhat limited explanation of what it’s truly like being an introverted person.
a: the act of directing one’s interest outward or to things outside the self.
b: the state of being concerned primarily with things outside the self, with the external environment rather than with one’s own thoughts and feelings.
a: the act of directing one’s interest inward or to things within the self.
b: the state of being concerned primarily with one’s own thoughts and feelings rather than with the external environment.
Difficulty in School + Work
When I was in school, most kids were extroverts and could not understand introverts, so they usually called me names like “loner” and “loser.”
Being surrounded by loads of people and lots of noise was extremely taxing/draining and still is even in my adult years.
In hindsight, I can see why I had such a hard time working with other people, and why I eventually just built my own service business so I could work alone.
Wanting to be alone to reflect on ones thoughts and not be drained by other people is virtually impossible for extroverts to comprehend, so introverts are usually misunderstood.
In my experience, being introverted means that my energy gets drained when I am out among other people (extroverts). I require regular alone time to ‘recharge’ my batteries and reflect inwardly.
Time spent in nature, in silence, in meditation, listening to music, reading, listening to audiobooks, courses, and channeling my creativity in various ways are all activities that recharge me.
Enjoy some video’s to understand what it’s like to be an introvert: